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25 Days- What a Red Carpet Journey!

What an exciting and humbling start to 2023!

On January 25, 2023, we needed to make a trip to visit my 98-year-old mom (my other mother) in San Francisco, after seeing her in October for her 98th birthday! We were unable to get there at Christmas and were so grateful she was still healthy, living on her own and well enough to anticipate a visit with us!  

When we started off on our adventure! Little did we know how much our lives would change for the better!

Our journey rolled out (figuratively and literally) like a red carpet of blessings everywhere we put our foot down.

  • Day 2 Jan 26- PM- After our wonderful lunch with Paul, we headed to Redding California to enjoy appies with our friends and producing partners, Jodi and Eric Hannah

    Learn More About Maggie, but stay tuned for some super exciting news coming soon!

    • Day 3 Afternoon Jan 27 -Until the morning of Feb 1 it was a ton of fun! We arrived home to our San Francisco Family- Really, it’s Palo Alto but all the same to us! We were here until we left for LA Feb 1! However, walking Rhylee the dog, cooking for the family, learning to make candles (thanks to the inspiration of my pseudo daughter Teresa) and putting together gift bags for our event in LA, it was wonderful to go for walks with my sister, going out for dinner, while Jim who brought his tool kit, fixed the various items in the home! This time he brought his tool kit to help with lights, ovens, stoves, electrical outlets and more! We get to stay in beautiful Palo Alto at our family home, with our own master bedroom king suite for free! Its the least we can do is to give back!

    Rhylee the dog… walking the neighbourhood in Palo Alto with Aunty Candace

    Of course I had to make the family my famous scones, prior to Valentines!! 🙂

    Thanks to Jeff, (former comic illustrator for Marvel) and AKA the long time server at Sundance Steak House in Palo Alto, we picked up a surprise gift for Terry Fator, that Jeff hand painted. A Jedi Warrior Light Sabre was created as a surprise for Terry that we were able to deliver personally! We got to meet his lovely wife and share appy’s at the same time! What a surprise when we found out Jeff not only served us, but he paid for our entire meal as a group!!! So very, very kind!! Thank you Jeff!!

    Jeff also gifted me with a hand drawn picture of my favourite character, Tinker Bell!!! 🙂 Thank you !!!

    Thank you Jeff and Sundance Steak House in Palo Alto! Your food, drinks, service and staff are divine!

    The “lit” light sabre for Terry!! He had NO idea!! 🙂
    • Day 7- Jan 31, 2023- Last night before leaving for LA. Dinner with family at Tamarine Restaurant in Palo Also- Freezing Cold!!! But no seats so we had to sit outside!! Bar none, the best modern Vietnamese cuisine I have ever had!

    • Day 8- Feb 1- LA and our Beverly Hills B&B- and planned luncheon here we come!! Finally some awesome weather, even though the grapevine into LA was layered with snow! First we have ever seen and that was before March 1 when it super snowed in LA. So glad we missed it!

    Hello LA!!!

    Feb 1- of course we couldn’t stop in LA without first dropping by my sister and producing partner, the 2 Time Emmy Award Winning Producer, Ms. Neisha Cohen and her puppies, Bella Luna and Matza Ball!

    One of Neisha’s children!! 🙂

    Uncle Jim- of course all the dogs love him!! 🙂
    Gifts from LeiLani delivered to LA for the next day’s luncheon gift bags!! Thank you LeiLani!

    Feb 1- Evening!! Getting together with our wonderful friends, actors and film makers, Lisa and David Bailey. They had come to visit us in Vancouver at Christmas and now we were visiting with them. We went to their house, shared a glass of wine and they treated took us to Musso and Franks, a Hollywood Historical Hang out! Fabulous food, historic Hollywood and of course, I got the collectors plates!! They turned down a well known celebrity the night before when he asked for a plate.. seems I still get favour!! See more pictures of our fabulous dinner at Musso and Franks with dear friends!

    On our way from our Air Bnb in Beverly Hills to pick up Bing and Lulu Bailey! Musso and Franks here we come!

    David (Bing) Bailey is a talented film producer, writer, director and creative genius with some pretty awesome Feature Film scripts (outside of his usual horror, zombie genre). It’s not my cup of tea but the one he gave me to read, well, in my humble opinion its a “home run” rivalling some well known and cult classics! His lovely wife Lulu (Lisa) Bailey is just as briliant in her skills of acting, drawing, writing, makeup and so much more!! What a dynamic duo!! leads to feature film # 1! Stay tuned!!

    Musso and Franks – Lulu (Lisa) and Candace

    * Day 9- Feb 2- Beverly Hills Hotel- Polo Lounge Here we come!!! I waited an entire year to reconnect and party with my girls!! Gift Bags Galore!! What an adventure as we were only sitting down for 15 minutes in a beautiful room overlooking the courtyard, when we were subjected to the announcement of the a notice that the Entire city of Beverly hills just experienced a power outage and that no hot beverages would be available!! Well, with a table full of actresses, what do you think happened??? We sat for several hours enjoying each others company, face timing with Terry Fator introduce him to our Hollywood Royalty of our beautiful sisters, Dyan Cannon, Stepfanie Kramer, Dee Wallace, and Neisha Cohen. Of course, we had to face time Leilani Deb Herman thank them all for the gifts!! Jim stayed the entire time and the girls loved him!!! 5 hours later, we decided we should think about leaving! The power came back on in plenty of time to grab coffee before our next adventure in Marina Del Ray that evening!!

    Day 9 Feb 2- Evening- After the Beverly Hills Hotel- (we stayed for 5 hours) so MUCH fun) on to Marina Del Ray! The always lovely, Rick Schirmer invited us to celebrate his best friend, the sweet and precious, Heidi Tuttle’s birthday after our Polo Lounge afternoon! It was the perfect way to end the day to see Heidi, Rick and his beautiful wife, Rachel McCord and their precious boy Jude!!

    The precious Heidi Tuttle!! Birthday girl!

    Celebrating Heidi!

    As usual, it’s not just about the party, and being able to give Heidi a big hug, we were blessed to meet many amazing people and connect with even more amazing people! I was honoured to meet and chat (with who I can now call my new friend), Joshua Nadler, Director of Acquisitions & Development at AFFIRM Films. Sony Pictures Entertainment. We also met his sweet girlfriend, Tilly who we have now invited to come hang with us as they make some possible Hollywood North Movies!

    Joshua Nadler and Candace

    If that wasn’t enough, that same night, I introduced myself and Jim and I shook hands to a super cool guy, Mike Manhardt! As I asked Mike, “tell me about you”? It opened up an exciting opportunity to video tape a message to my producer partner and his dad, Eric Hannah and David Hannah (the founder of Athletes in Action-AIA) as Mike began to tell me about his work with AIA!! Right then and there I sent a video message to Dave from Mike and they connected!! What a small world??

    Then Mike goes on to tell me about his two Super Bowl commercials, for (remember that name not only for the Super Bowl but how it creates a connection with some new friends later in this blog). Our providential conversation with Mike, led to some very exciting conversations that lead up to Feature Film # 2 for Unlocking Secrets Productions our producing partners. More on that later!

    This turned into an exciting conversation with Mike as I felt to share a zoom link with him for a zoom call coming up in the following weeks, after the Super Bowl held in Arizona with our AOC life team! Little did we know, what else it would lead to!! We were anticipating a phone call coming up Feb 27 with the Ambassadors of Compassion Team, and the owner of the (not yet known) Super Bowl Winners, The Kansas City Chiefs!!

    Everyone at Heidi’s party that we met, exchanged numbers and very soon, we found incredible connections and started texting introductions all over the place!!!

    then…. the next day.. more magic!

    Mike, Candace and Jim
    • Day 10- Feb 3, 2023- Finally a day off!! Or so we thought!! We love to meet people but we needed a break from our whirlwind few days. Little did we know what was coming! We decided to take a leisurely later morning walk down to downtown Beverly Hills from our Air BnB to many of the places I had filmed at, enjoyed meals and hanging with the crew. Of course this meant the iconic Rodeo Drive, which we love to come back to since, 2006-2008 when I first met, Neisha Cohen, Dyan Cannon, Stepfanie Kramer, Dee Wallace, and Terry Fator on our set of our celebrity Biography show called, Unscripted- shot in the Montage in Beverly HiIls, now known as The Maybourne. Not to mention popping in to CUT to reminisce of the kind Wolfgang Puck who signed and gifted me with his dinner plates from CUT. at the Beverly Wiltshire Hotel.

    Griffith Observatory

    • Day 11- Feb 5, 2023- Morning: Time to leave LA and move on to Palm Springs and Vegas, but before we did, we wanted to stop and hang around and since it was “Sunday”, church with our good friends, Sammy Maloof and family!! Sammy, Jen, Hannah, Megan, Kaitlyn and Janeen and Josh have a show on Netflix called “Drive Hard the Maloof Way”. This amazing, family friendly, series is a must watch for the whole Family!! We love them all so much! We stayed just for a quick visit then headed to Palm Springs overnight to visit good friends.

    • Day 12- Feb 6, 2023- Off to Vegas!! Driving from Palm Springs to Las Vegas was our very first experience. We have never been to Vegas (true story) either of us have never been and we were excited about our drive to stay with our good friends, Terry and Angie Fator and join our production partner and friend Eric Hannah! . Terry graciously invited us to stay at his beautiful 10,000 square foot home for 4-5 days!! We hoped we would still be friends by the end of it! Our drive up the mountain pathways between Palm Springs and Vegas was gorgeous, windy, snowy and full of incredible desert vegetation, snow capped mountains,, lots of trucks and wind.. so much wind!!

    Day 12: Feb 6, 2023 -Feb 9, 2023- we finally arrived in the early afternoon to Las Vegas!! We arrived and it just so happens that my niece and nephew who have also never been to Vegas were there on their last day, so we celebrated their 2nd wedding anniversary, our nephews birthday and Jims which was the next day, at a healthy restaurant recommended by our friend and Vegas, Medical Dr, Chantelle. In the shops next to Caesars Palace, we enjoyed a great lunch together, finally joined by our good friend, Eric Hannah who just flew in from Redding to join us for the next few days of filming, friends and fellowship with Terry and Angie. After lunching with our niece and nephew, we headed for Terry and Angies house in Vegas for the next few days! For Jim who has never been to Vegas, Angie and Terry, and myself, organized a surprise birthday party for Jim the next day, for dinner, Paid for by Eric and the team, then headed to Terry’s show, where Terry surprised Jim and myself, by making us a part of the show! It was hilarious!! Then we heading back to Terry and Angies, after a full house show, where Angie had made a divine German Chocolate Cake for Jim, and we got to watch The Chosen in Terry’s theatre, all while in our PJ’s. But first things first, after Terry and Angie showed us around their beautiful home, (which hosts Christmas all year round) and led us down a long hallway to our own private guest suites, Terry made us a batch of his famous chicken wings using his “special S_it” sauce!! So much fun!! We then gave Terry and Angie the gifts we had brought for them including, an autographed copy of The Shack- who Terry is a big fan of William Paul Young, who I had the honour of introducing them to each other, and a copy of Deb Hermans, Spiritual Writing, a huge bag of vinegars, oils and mustards from The Olive Pit in California and finally the “custom designed Light Sabre, hand painted by our Sunset Waiter and Marvel Comic illustrator, Jeff!! Who made it especially for Terry as a surprise! Terry and Angie loved the gifts and we shared a bottle of Dyan Cannon’s delicious wine with them! Later on we had Dyan and Terry meet by phone and connect! They have established their friendship! So many amazing moments were shared with all of us as a group. We connected many new and established resources to help Terry full fill his dreams!! Our bond and connection is forever and secured by the commitment to remain good friends! Upon leaving, Terry and Angie gifted us with some amazing books, prayer and loving friendships.. oh and a connection to Amazon for that Special S_it” that makes the best chicken wings ever! Love you guys!!!

    • Day 14 Feb 8 2023- Eric had to go back to Redding for meetings, and Terry had to do a show, we decided to take the time to explore Vegas for the afternoon, evening! What a one time experience. We don’t like the fact that everyone seems to smoke on the streets, including pot, and we even got propositioned. Altough we should have been flattered it’s just a big turn off. However, while Terry was performing at his show in New york New York, we headed to Caesars where we found a valet for $7.00 for the entire day, ending at 9:00 pm that night! Perfect for us and walking distance to all the main attractions. We headed through Cesars palace, and the shops where I bought some amethyst rocks I planned on crushing and putting in my new lavender candles I was making, then headed to Hells Kitchen where they took us straight into dinner! What fabulous food, a great experience, and maybe a souvenir! I didn’t get a plate as they don’t customize them, but I feel like they missed an experience by not shouting out “shut it down” every 30 minutes!! lol.. it would be fun!!@gordonramsey I think you should add this as a entertainment feature in your Hells Kitchen, restaurants! We then headed to the Bellagio to watch the gorgeous fountain show and saw the beautiful inside of the hotel! Gorgeous photos, but we really feel like we don’t need to see much more! If we go back, it’s to see Terry and Angie! During our time there we were fortunate enough to connect Terry and Angie to some amazing colleagues, friends! Terry deserves all the recognition for how hard he works and so does Angie! What a team! While we were there we were fortunate enough to get some footage of green screen interviews of Terry and some of his story! Future planning! What an amazing team Terry has in Tanner and Marina!! Thank you all for your help!!
    • Day 15 Feb 9, 2023- Having had the time of our lives, filming in Terry’s own home studio, praying together, eating together, crying together, laughing together and planning together, it was time for us to head back to LA, finish some last minute business and head back to our family in San Fran for Valentines and family celebrations. Parting gifts from Terry and Angie were especially precious… the love note from Eric to Jim for his birthday was exceptional. Our bond is forever. Angie gifted me with a beautiful card and devotional and Terry and Angie gifted us with a fantastic book of his cartoon featured with some outstanding celebrities! He personally signed it for us before we all prayed together before headed out on our journey to LA via a different route! Jim offered a little bit of his electrical expertise to help a few things around Terry’s house before we left!

    • Day 15- Feb 9, 2023- Leaving Terry and Angies, and heading back to LA- we decided to stop back in to visit Sammy Maloof and family and after Sammy prayed with us, I was invited to sing in Janeen’s studio- I hadn’t sang in an awful long time, so my voice wasn’t remotely warmed up and I didn’t know the lyrics, but what the heck.. humbling myself, I sang my heart out in her studio!! Thank you dear Janeen, from Mentoring with Music for the sudden and spontaneous studio opportunity! Funny, I had the song , the “Goodness of God” by CeCe Winans in my heart for the past several days and I had the chance to sing it! What a blessing for me! It’s a good thing with not being able to hit the hight notes and with only one take, that God loves a “joyful noise”.
    • Day 15- Feb 9-10, 2023- That evening, after Sammy’s we arrived at the Marriot in LA was the perfect end to a fabulous evening! We will definitely stay there again! Right outside our room was the Jacuzzi, and fire pit. We had it all to ourselves as we stay for two nights visiting friends and enjoying our down time. We connected with my dear sister, Dyan Cannon at her house and Neisha Cohen. A wonderful visit with them in the afternoon, before we headed to the beautiful home of Petri and Makita Hawkins Byrd- where they served us a fabulous home cooked curry and taught us how to play Phase 10- our new “go to game”. then we got to play with the Emmy’s and Spirit awards, before picking a lemon straight from their tree and headed back to our hotel for the last night in LA. We touched base with our former director of Unscripted, Karl Richter and hope to get a visit in next time! It was sad to say goodbye to LA but we know we have dear friends and family all long the southern coast of LA and a second home anytime we want to!

    • Day 16 -23- Feb 11-16th 2023- We said goodbye to LA and headed to San Fran to be with family and celebrate Jim’s birthday at the wine and tapas bar in Palo Alto! IT was freezing cold, but complete with our new ring flasks, Suzie and I joined the guys with a delicious tapas bar and wine!! Super Bowl Sunday, Feb 12, we texted with the LA team who did the Super Bowl Commercials in anticipation of the game!! On the Super Bowl Sunday, Sam and Sophia joined us to watch the game! Brandon, Suzie, Jim and I created all kinds of fun treats as we enjoyed the super bowl together! I predicted the win off the Chiefs after I witnessed #87 complete the first touchdown!! For the first time in my life I actually understood the game!! On Monday, we were joined by Suzie and Brandon at Sundance Steak house were Suzie and Brandon got to re-celebrate Jim’s birthday where Jeff presented him with is own personal hand created light sabre! Fabulous drinks and a wonderful night of fun and friendship and fabulous food! Once again, Jeff treated us to a fabulous appys and we received the best service! The rest of the week was filled with prepping for my class that i was to teach live upon returning home Feb 24 as well as zoom calls to chat about upcoming projects, movies, and TV shows!! I had a great visit with sister Kathy, and got to bring home fresh picked avocados from the neighbours tree that had been cut back. Walking the dog, cooking dinner and helping Jim with fixing ovens, lights and stoves around the Harker house in Palo Alto added to the fun! Thursday evening was a fantastic visit with mom, thanks to sister Kathy who went ahead and prepped it all for us in advance. Mom was funny and entertaining and gave me back my folder of all my letters and correspondence I have with her over the years, as well as a generous belated Christmas gift! as well as getting to see mom and laughing, video taping her sweet voice and laughter and exchanging funny stories with Jim. It was hard to say goodbye to her, but we promised we would come back in May to see her!

    • Day 23- Feb 16- 2023- With plans to head back to Vancouver with a quick morning stop to Maggie in Tiburon and a stop in Sacramento to see Geoff, Laura and baby Jamie, before heading to see Eric and Jodi in Redding, and overnighting in Medford, we packed up and prepared for the early morning trip the next day! Our hearts were full but sad to leave our family and many, many dear friends.
    • Day 24- Feb 17- We hit the road around 9:00 am and headed without traffic challenges to say goodbye to Maggie and the team, before heading to visit surrogate kids, Geoff, Laura and baby Jamie in Sacramento! What a joyful visit with the kids and loved their cute house! Onto Redding to enjoy appy’s, production conversations and Rain and Wind – love the family!!! Onward to Medford for the night to see, William Paul Young one more time to deliver a signed copy of her book to Paul as a thank you from Deb!

    • Day 25- Feb 18- Leaving a wonderful nights sleep in Medford at a great hotel, we jumped in the car and headed for Vancouver washington to drop off the gift for Paul Young, The Shack Author. Unfortunately Paul wasn’t well enough to visit on the way back, but he did introduce me to a new possible client, Terry Esau, who I will be zooming with this week! Regardless, if we connect in business or not, this man does great work! Take a look at his give back! US only! We arrived to my brothers house in Mount Vernon to pick up some gifts before finally heading home! We had ordered all our Instacart and Costco food prior to crossing the border and it was waiting for us at home! We were able to eat, unpack and rest before hitting church the next day and starting our whirlwind week back home!

    What a journey!! So grateful for each and everyone on of you who blessed us, invited us to dinners, events, house guests, prayer partners and so much more. Thank you dear friends!!

    Its been a privilege and a blessing and we are so grateful for the connections, time, people, business opportunities and blessings, so many blessings. We are humbled beyond belief and so grateful! we love you all.

    Please stay tuned to my new production site for all upcoming projects!


    Mental health matters… Make sure you’re helping yourself.

    There comes a time in your life when you simply choose emotional and mental wellness.

    As my good friend Sammy Maloof says, “go where you’re celebrated, and not where you’re tolerated”.


    I’ve come to learn recently that I have had “access gates” over the years that were left open due to my desire to have the love I didn’t have growing up.  While my desire for a close family was very noble and beautiful, this left me without boundaries in important areas and gave access where it should have never been given.  My deep hearts cry and desire for that love, has led most of my decisions & has left me wide open for repeated, painful, emotional, and mental impact.

    Not having the awareness, and therefore not self-correcting with healthy boundaries, I became a target to be misunderstood and subsequently experienced devastating, mental and emotional hurt.

    IT WAS and IS incredibly painful. This final round hurt so much that it knocked me back into the horrible feelings of shame, judgement and no worth as far back as I can remember. It prevented me from eating and even caused a weight loss due to the distress.

    This is the last time I ever want to feel that kind of pain. However, pain is a warning system that something needs attention.

    Painful interactions hold a purpose if we can see it and capture the wisdom and lessons that it brings.

    This has been my lifelong learning journey and a truth I have held onto since running away at 12 years old and hanging around the streets of Vancouver.  In running from circumstances that were difficult to bear, I also think I had run through my fair share of “troops of angels” (if you believe in angels) they were exhausting themselves keeping me alive and safe.  

    I don’t blame anyone for the circumstances that caused me to react resulting in choosing to run away. I just had a deep internal belief there was no one to take care of me, see me or help me. I was scared, lonely and lost, resulting in an incorrect belief, that I had to take care of myself. 

    A 12-year-old is not meant to raise themselves and I had no idea how to keep myself safe outside of learning to be super tough and at least protect myself from the obvious.  In choosing to run away, I do believe it was my own sense of self, helping to preserve my personality and value and worth until I could figure out how to navigate this crazy world.

    I could easily document a 1000-page book on all my own antics, experiences, both good and bad and those self-inflicted and by others. However, I am bound and determined to use them as my personal growth opportunities, even after all these years.

    Just like we can’t eat an entire smorgasbord all at once, growth comes in layers and is gentle and designed to bring healing over time, and with patience.

    Even at my age, I am still hit with pain that forces growth like nothing else can.  My growth results are within my own hands.  As an adult, it’s my job to assess my own mental and emotional well-being. This is important to remember as we grow and continue our work towards mental and emotional wellness.

    There is NO shame in seeking help for yourself. When a surgeon needs a surgeon, they understand it’s ridiculous to operate on themselves.  it’s just common sense, not shame.

    As children we depend on healthy parents to help define our healthy response and approach to life.

    I didn’t have that choice, but over the years, I have continued to face growth.

    These are my lessons to learn, and I am grateful for the painful experiences that lead me to where I needed growth in this time in my life.

     Although I can’t ensure I will be understood all the time, caring for myself in my own emotional well-being is my job and only my job.

    I encourage you to look at the repeated painful events and see the pattern and get the help you need.

    You need let pain help bring the pattern to light, then see the pattern, then break the pattern. Then you need to establish healthy, self-respect and boundaries for yourself.

    Without these healthy boundaries for myself and ensuring the respect for these vulnerabilities, it can leave a wide-open door to access your heart to be hurt. I’m committed to ensuring the winter years of my life are filled with tender kindness and love and being viewed with pure eyes. And if others won’t view me with pure eyes, my job is to make sure I take care of me.

    I now understand that the door of my heart doesn’t have a lock, but it does have a handle that can close and be opened when there is appropriate and respectful access.

    Hold onto your mental health – you and your inner peace is what we have left at the end of the day. Our mental health matters. 


    #mentalhealth #love #kindness #wellness #healing #pain #joy #forgiveyourself

    Are you willing?

    Here’s to your full healing. Be courageous ! It’s time ❤️🙏 Would you be willing? 💕🙏

    Healing broken relationships.

    Right now we have time to process and learn emotional intelligence in a way we might never have had before.

    For most of us having a broken relationship might mean we are having a difficult time knowing how to fix it, or find a way back, OR even worse, unwilling to find a way back.

    We gamble living with regret when we had the power to do something about it. You owe it to yourself to do a deep dive, so you minimize the regret YOU will live with should the unthinkable happen. Until you choose to be courageous it’s going to keep being in your way and will impede you from fully moving forward.

    Think about this. Your current relationships, no matter how good you think they are, are only as good as you are navigating them, emotionally speaking. Not dealing with the unfinished, demonstrates limits and a lack of willingness to grow through challenges with the unresolved party. This will stay in the back of your mind, whether you think so or not. If your current relationship should trigger you the way your unresolved one is doing, you will NOT have the skills to move through it as you have no knowledge of how to do so. You can’t take yourself past where you have drawn a line. Therefore, if anyone in your current life should trigger you the same way it’s “game over” so to speak. You will practise what you have learned or find yourself unable to resolve what you haven’t yet learned. Division and walls are NOT solutions, that is called “avoidance”.

    The lack of resolution is like living with a broken leg that hasn’t healed. You refused the surgery because you were scared and the “temporary cast” isn’t doing its job. Of course it’s not good for your emotional, physical and mental health and certainly damaging to your current relationship.

    You owe it to yourself to heal.

    Like a broken arm or a broken leg that’s unhealed, a broken heart that is hurt because of a relationship and remains broken is unhealthy and will impair your ability to live your fullest life.

    In fact, an unhealed heart can increase your anxiety, increase uncertainty, increase heartache and impair you emotionally, physically and spiritually in a way that nothing else can.

    Think of it this way.

    Adversity can come in relationships from the most benign challenges to the hardest. Kind of like lifting weights. If you continue with a commitment to deal with your problems, no matter how hard, it’s like lifting the small weight and continue to gradually add the ability to lift more as you encounter and resolve each trial. If you only manage the “small ones” and avoid the big ones, then you will be unable to “lift” when it’s needed. You don’t have the strength or experience of a resolved challenge to get you to the next one.

    It’s unfinished business.

    The truth is, the impact within you singularly, (that broken relationship) is impacting YOU internally. You are not being honest or realistic with yourself or others. It’s still broken inside of you and until you tackle it with courage and skill, you will remain unable think differently and resolve it. This “stuff” is coming from YOUR insides. I promise you, the underlying hurt invades every single way you approach people. It can’t be avoided, it spills out. You owe yourself more than this.❤️

    We might be stuck, unable to see our way through and just afraid and unwilling to step into something that’s painful. But what happens if we would just be willing to consider another way? With courage, humility and a simple adjustment of thought, we can make all the difference to opening that door.

    Practical help:

    Here is an excellent podcast from two world renowned complex negotiators that understand the need for emotional intelligence in relationship and conflict resolution. It’s possible to grow and learn a better way. Take a listen here:

    A New Way to Think:

    What happens if instead of believing the person that hurt you is bad, why not take a different approach? Develop compassionate curiosity learning emotional intelligence, which replaces revenge, walls or bitterness. Anyone can learn this and is a level of intelligence we can all achieve.

    We all want the same thing: We all want to be loved and understood, so why don’t you shift your thoughts to a different view by considering, maybe the person, like you, isn’t all bad, is more than there mistakes and has good in them too?

    What happens if you decide to see them as good and focus on that? What we focus on grows either good or bad. Are you the one who has made them so bad in your mind, that now you can’t reach out, or are too far gone?

    It’s never too late. Love can heal anything, if you let it.

    What story have you told yourself?

    What if you become curious and vulnerable and soft hearted enough to want to know the others story, or perspective ALONG with yours?

    Have you become the sole authority and knower of another persons heart? If you think so, that’s a pretty heavy place to have put yourself. Assuming you know what others are thinking or feeling or imagining you know where they are coming from is too big of a burden and frankly, isn’t even realistic, or sustainable.

    Our inability to see someone as a complete human (good and not so good) often blocks our ability to find our way through to reconciliation and healing.

    More practical help:

    Here is another learning that might help you. This FBI negotiator has determined to let you see into his heart on how we can learn from failure.

    If you focused on the wrong that someone has done and you are stuck there, why don’t you do yourself a favour and look at them differently? Why not allow some other perspective into your story to create a more balanced and holistic thinking?

    Without all perspectives, you are flying with one wing my friend, and you may not see that you are spinning around in the same circle that started when you decided to cut someone out of your life.

    I promise its what “you” have done to “you” that is at stake here.

    As far as the person you have shut out, they have gifts and strengths that God has placed within them that you are no longer benefiting from. That’s just sad.

    It doesn’t mean that what happened to you or how you experienced things wasn’t real. It means it’s not the whole story and that’s why you’re stuck.

    Open your heart.

    Just as we want others to see past our human mistakes and see the good in us, consider they have good in them too and start there. 🙏

    You owe yourself the opportunity to be completely whole, dealing with any unhealed areas inside of you. If you won’t do it for you, do it for those around you that you love. Because truthfully, no matter what you think, they are not able to experience all of you, because all of you isn’t fully open. 🙏💕

    If you still struggle with “how they hurt you” and can’t find a way to forgive, here’s a little episode from the movie The Shack f(ilmed right here in British Columbia) that might just help. Here’s to your full healing ! 🙏💕hCandy$$isaverygoodperson##toknowabout$$v=5caGyE8BoXs

    “Trust Your Gut”?


    This article is my personal first hand experience watching the term “trusting your gut” be abused and misused.

    This is a bit of a long read and learned lessons, based on the phrase ‘Don’t let your good be spoken evil of”.

    If your decisions have left collateral damage, you might want to consider this thoughtful posting.

    If you are operating in integrity, while trusting your gut, there will be full transparency, absolute integrity and “buy in” without manipulating at each step along the way.

    Patiently willing to learn and understand the concerns of those who love and care for you while you wait for the witness of important pieces and people before “acting on things”, will assist you in purifying any intentions or possible future mishaps.

    Think of it as a caution sign. ⚠️

    Imagine if you were walking on a pathway you’ve never walked on before. You want take each step very carefully and ensure that everything is in agreement before you make the next step. This is important in unknown territory and especially when the collateral damage potential is high.

    As with any “passion pursuits” the caution provides the much needed “ stop & pause” level of accountability that passion makes us blind to at the time of exciting opportunities.

    “In the multitude of counsellors, there is safety”.

    Consider: A full witness and agreement all around is prudent and if rejected, often exposes possibly, less than honourable motives.

    Your “ gut “ will be just ONE of the “multiple, moral and integral” factors that assist in indicating you’re moving the right way, and the sign will be you have kept valuable relationships in tact.
    In seeking the best outcomes you might think you are doing things the “right thing”, but get it the, “wrong way”, however you might not be operating in the highest outcome for everyone involved, including yourself.

    I feel we should consider an added value to the statement “ trusting your gut”. We just can’t use this statement in an isolated vacuum. The term “trusting your gut“, has to have a measured approach and protected by a strong commitment to ethical outcomes for all concerned. “Trusting your gut”, cannot stand on its own without accountability and must be a complete and transparent process ending in “win-win”.

    To reject the prudence test, exposes immaturity and self-centred needs that will show up over time. If it can’t pass the first test of prudence, it’s not going to pass any future test. Tests are an inevitable pressure on relationships to bring less than desirable qualities to the surface for healing or resolve.

    The deeper the impact on outcomes towards others, the more time should be given in making decisions.

    I have had to learn some tough lessons of late.

    In my experience, seeing behaviours that were disappointing, I had to accept a lack of honour and integrity in some of the relationships in the past.

    I’ve learned “loyalty” is an optional outcome in relationships if one interferes with the goals of another. I experienced outcomes that did not line up with integrity in my friendships. That was and is a big lesson to learn. I experienced, in certain cases, that I was a pitstop for individuals to pursue relationships that I had nurtured, so those same individuals could directly benefit. Sadly, some very important relationships have been ruined due to these type of selfish pursuits.

    Boundaries are a must in business AND in personal relationships.

    I am learning to be diligent in who has access to my friendships and why.

    This was/ is hard for me as I naturally love to gather people together and really see others connect and grow.
    I am learning, now more than ever, to pay close attention to the possibility of less than honourable motives with those who have access to the connections I have the honour to build. Trusted relationships have a very vulnerable side.

    Hollywood is a tough town to find integrity.
    When I started working in the entertainment industry in 2008, we were filming a celebrity biography TV show in Beverly Hills. I had come up with the idea to create a more profitable add on to the shows I was already producing in Vancouver, Canada.

    I went to LA to meet significant Hollywood movers and shakers to start the development process. I cold called and built the trust necessary to start the conversation and development. 15 years later, I am grateful to have maintained these relationships in spite of significant obstacles by those with less than integrity. Out of that initial work a secondary opportunity had opened and I carefully and strategically facilitated a meeting with high profile people and very well known networks.

    I further believed we all had the same shared values of integrity. I was wrong. Initially, I was included in conversations, emails and all seemed above board.

    Out of know where was a slight “ tone change” took place and I later discovered that back door deals were made leaving me left out.

    Money-(the love of money=greed) can bring that out in people – but I’ve learned that so can loneliness and desperation.

    As with all things that are not built on integrity, the project eventually failed, unable to stand the test of integrity.

    Hollywood can be a dirty business and the entertainment industry is full of it. What is hard, is this can also be a similar lack of integrity and in close relationships where you believed you had a degree of trust.

    But again, human beings regardless of the context, don’t often choose to be the best version of themselves when they could. They often reach for the lowest and easiest common denominator.

    This is exactly why good things are hard and have to pass the test of time.

    I knew I had to be wiser in business and with my celebrity clients, but this has struck close to home several times now and I need to learn my lesson.

    So this advice is for myself and if it benefits others as well, all the better.

    Your “gut” might tell you all kinds of things that you believe are correct, but without the presence of a transparent process and ethical filter, for the greater good for everyone involved, you’re not trusting your gut. The danger of acting in selfishness with a personal agenda will cause failures.

    I promise you.

    Think twice about what it means to “trust your gut”. Allow the test of time and demonstrate your integrity. Don’t run from it, press into it. You will be better for it.

    “ mans rejection is Gods protection “ 🙏❤️

    Cold, Wind, Eyes, Smell, Wine, Money, Blood, and Big Feet

    March 17, 2020- today being St. Patrick’s day it was also our parents wedding day in Britain way back in 1944~

    But I need to tell you all about this!

    This is Titled :

    Cold, Wind, Eyes, Smell, Wine, Money, Blood, and Big Feet

    Look for clues below…

    Yup it’s all true… it happened.. all of it… no exaggerating…

    Picture this… its Friday March 13, 2020… we had a sense to cancel our 6 month plan of being in California for spring break as we really recognized something is going on that we can’t control.  So we changed  plans to come to Victoria instead.  During the day Friday, we took a walk around our hotel and found this fabulous newer restaurant that we had never heard of!!  We were so excited that we booked a wonderful sunset seat for 2 for dinner later that evening.  It was brisk out and there was a wind warning… I dressed warmly, Jim not so much… it matters to the story…Cold…

    We arrived at our dinner walking briskly due to the cold air and wind warnings that had picked up that afternoon…..we should have just turned around and ordered room service…..Wind….

    We were seated at our beautiful sunset table and was handed the menu ….As I struggled to read the  light colored ink of the menu with my aging eyes .I couldn’t quite make it out so I asked Siri to turn the flashlight on my phone so I could read better….Jim wanted to be a gentleman so he told me to put my phone away and he would hold his phone flashlight over the menu… I was too polite to complain and I actually couldn’t see  with all his effort but I did my best…. And together we looked at the options… Eyes


    In viewing the menu for the wine, it was decided by Jim, that I would choose a good quality that we usually see when we look at this web-site, moderate wine and for confidence, I would taste the 2 oz cab sav…… as from his non wine drinkers point of view it smelled better than the other one. Wine, Smell


    So I ordered the two ounce (couldn’t quite read the price but the numbers appeared as single digits, so I was confident it would be fine)…… I then proceeded to order the bottle (knowing that the next night we would be inviting friends over from the Mainland to join us and we would share the remainder of the wine together with them) Eyes… Wine


    We really enjoyed our meals and the sunset, and decided we were tired and asked for the bill. While waiting for it to come, I mentally calculated what it would be and I removed a couple of smaller splurges off my upcoming shopping list to pay for it…Wine


    Then we got the bill…apparently the dark font of the ink from the bill wasn’t hard to read at all even though my eyes were still weak…. It was NUTS… apparently the two digits for the bottle of wine wasn’t accurate- I hadn’t see it… faded color of the ink… Eyes

    The Wine… well it turned out that it was 3 digits!! Not two and I nearly fainted…. I saw myself fasting for the next week to make up for the bill I just had to pay!! Money

    Walking back to the hotel I discussed with Jim that I had a plan to make up for the cost of the wine, with ideas of fasting and not spending anything on things I didn’t need… it got cold..and the wind…. …. Jim suddenly needed to rush back to the hotel.. the bodily dinner removal process had speeded up for him… and he was cold….and he rushed.. his legs are long and tall and can move much faster than mine… I saw the parliament buildings all lit up come into view and I needed to stop to take a picture

    That only made Jim want to hurry me up more… so in my very solid flat boots, carrying a very expensive bottle of wine, I carefully rushed towards him to get back to our room with him … 150 feet from our room…I was barely 2 feet from Jim when the … WIND -a HUGE gust of wind- rushed around me and felt it move me.. it also moved Jim… in the dark with his beautiful foot right in front of mine… it was an accident…. Neither of us saw it coming.. but his 10 inch foot was planted firmly in front of my 6 inch foot and without warning… SLAM!! I WAS DOWN… face down…. My knee hit the ground before impacting my face….. neither of us could have prevented it…. It was just one of those things… and what did I have in my left hand that I had carefully…. Oh so carefully carried?? ….. precious cargo… WINE….. yup.. slammed to the ground along with me…. I heard it smash… I felt the moist wetness on my face.. but it wasn’t the wine I was feeling.. the gash on my nose was pouring out blood… along with my beautiful gorgeous red VERY EXPENSIVE wine…. Jim deeply concerned, grabbed me and walked quickly with me back to the room. I thought I had broken my nose and my first aid training came in quickly… so I started to tell Jim what to do.. he got me ice, and bandages while I proceeded to create a Steristrip to close the bleeding gash on my nose – really should have had 2 stitches… but I am a first aid person and I managed to stop the bleeding, clean the wound, close it and proceed to treat my throbbing knee that had two large scrapes on it.. thank goodness I was wearing  my good quality pants that prevented further damage…….

    I am healing…. My nose has improved, my knees have improved……… but my wine has gone forever… I would have rather have given blood… ALL THAT RED is wine!!!……

    The End….

    The Perfect Northwest Self Care Retreat…. Semiahmoo Resort and Spa

    I work hard.. too hard sometimes… so do you…

    Life, in this day and age with all of our conveniences, seems to add to the workload rather than ease it…. so.. here’s how I relax.. and you can too!

    For the past 22+ years, this has been my home away from home. Just a hop, skip and jump from South Surrey BC- this haven has seen me through some amazing, and painful and productive, and healing times.

    Contact Micah the reservations manager if you want to stay in “my room”. Feel free to mention me and they will treat you like gold… in fact even without mentioning my name, Micah, Evan, General Manager Nicole and all the staff from housekeeping, to engineering, to the front counter, the spa staff and the wait staff are the best people and care so much for your stay-they will treat you like a king or queen!

    Contact: Semiahmoo Resort
    9565 Semiahmoo Parkway
    Blaine, Washington 98230
    Phone: 360.318.2000
    Fax: 360.318.2087
    Reservations: 855.917.3767

    THIS IS HOW I DO IT!  This weekend, the first weekend after the start of fall,  I needed a  break… alone…. complete with candles, bath treats, natural skin and hair washing products from SweetLeiLani and Sugar and Spice Natural products (click on the name to go to their sites and order their amazing products).

    I brought my diffuser (which I ordered from Amazon after having seen it at the Spa here at Semiahmoo- , with Saje Relaxing Oils  and proceeded to enjoy my weekend… I am still here.. 3 glorious nights of bliss and calm and self reflection… take a look below…


    Honey wax candles, lavendar epsom salt bath, natural products for scrubbing and skin care…


    Hydration at its best… smart water…. haven’t tested my IQ after, but I am pretty certain I am smarter now! 


    Diffuser and essential oils… Saje Relaxing Oils    Bose sound to play my favorite, Lauren Daigle Music 

    Bubbles and more bubbles……


    My walk out to the ocean, wood burning fire place room…..


    Honey wax candle light and wood burning fire… are you kidding me???


    The gorgeous fall sunset!  Solitude with nature and it’s creator…. 


    Plug ins for electronics… and the diffuser…. beside the bed to aid in sleep and relaxation…


    90 minute spa treatment.. yes!  RMT receipts allow me to get an entire refund from my insurance provider.. did I say “free” 90 min massage??? 


    Mentally ready for the spa……<3


    The gorgeous contrast of fall colors leading to the entrance of the resort..where valets and accommodating staff wait to meet your every need…. 


    Love the greenery surrounding the spacious property…..


    I am so much at home, I am wearing slippers down the hall where I just heated up my left overs in the complementary microwave…


    Captured the ray of sun, shining down at the back yard of the property beside the ocean and well kept gardens…


    and… if you want to play… a sandbox… kids might be welcome too… 🙂 

    Fire pit and smores….Yum! 

    Rocking chairs to watch the children play, the ocean waves roll and the stunning sunsets….

    For rainy days, a games  room filled with lots of choices and windows to view the ocean while the family plays.. this is a year round resort for family, business or solos like mine… 🙂 

    Fire places galore!!

    This greets you as part of the majestic lobby ….. can you say “west coast”? 


    This welcoming lobby comes with welcoming staff……


    Need a glass of wine for the sunset… they have everything you need in the gift shop beside the front desk…..


    Oh ya… it’s not halloween yet, but the face mask serves in the bath as a refreshing treat…. this is exactly why you do this alone.. no point in scaring off your partner!


    My feet are happy……


    Come and join me and many, many others in experiencing the best,  most soothing place in the world….. all year round the family can enjoy the abundance of activities offered by the resort, fires at the beach complete with smores, paddle boards, bikes,  indoor, outdoor swimming pool, basketball and tennis courts…….. wine…. fires everywhere… home away from home…..and… did I mention the indoor theatre!!! Yup!!!

    What are you waiting for??   COME ON HOME……

    Semiahmoo Resort Golf Spa   Photo credit: 



    An Interview with William Paul Young- The Shack-


    Faith- In 2007, when I had been asked to help with a TV production in Canada, one of the guests, former Captain of the Canucks, Ryan Walter handed me a book and said, “You need to read this”.   I did. It was,  “The Shack”. It made a difference in my life. It confirmed my “knowing” that what I had experienced as a young girl in my new faith was real and authentic inspite the amount of “religion” that I sadly fell into.

    THE SHACK- THE BOOK – My intention isn’t to challenge anyones theology, but rather to emphasize that we all share in a desire to connect, to love in every way possible and I really think we all want the same thing.  I highly recommend the book- Warning -it will dig you deeply in a good way.   And if you don’t want to read it or watch the movie, because you hate religion- take comfort- God hates religion too – instead- Just call it LOVE <3


    The Shack- The Movie- Starring Academy Award Winner, Octavia Spencer the movie…. will grip you…. -here’s the trailer: –

    The movie will touch your heart in a way you can’t explain.  Its a tool for thought provoking, healing – Click here to see a taste……>>>>>>>>>





    Join Paul and Candace -here >>>>>>>>



    Skincare!! Local and Amazing!

    I had the recent, pleasant experience of running into an old friend at a local Christmas Market here in Vancouver, BC Canada!

    It was wonderful to see her and learn about how her family was doing!  She had a booth at the Christmas Market in Vancouver selling her own locally made, Skin Care products!!

    I bought some for myself and my daughter in law and granddaughter! Of course, I tried them myself!! And I love it!  Here is her website!!

    Here is a video of me and the all natural, locally harvested organic clay with pumpkin and other healthy products!

    Putting it on!

    Thanks Tanja!!!

    Taking it off!!






    DIVA’S THAT CARE! Take a listen!


    I am grateful for those moments when we take a chance to “connect”  with women who are doing incredible things that help to change not only their worlds, but others too!

    A few months ago I spontaneously decided to join the amazing  Jo Dibble and the Frock Off Group-  at a  weekend away in Portland, Oregon.  It was there that I met more inspiring women! Not only did these women overcome some unbelievable obstacles during their lifetime, they have taken their lives back and are incredible gifts to all of us!  Each of these women have their own unique story, or are part of creating platforms for others to benefit from. Learning about how they are dancing forward in grace and dignity and building successful networks and business’s to make their mark in the world was a real honour!

    CANDACE GISH  One lovely woman I met, is Candace Gish-  click here to learn about “Candace Gish”....Not only was there a connection because of our matching names * “spelled correctly in my opinion”  but she is kind and gracious and successful and creating her own unique pathways!  *(regarding our names, if you don’t believe me, ancient text in the bible identifies the “Queen of Ethiopia” – her name was “Candace”!)  Acts 8:27-There he met an Ethiopian eunuch, a court official of Candace, queen of the Ethiopians, who was in charge of all her treasury. ”  Queen Candace was a successful leader!  Coincidence?? I think not!!!

    For those of us who step out and try and make a difference with our life experiences, obstacles and challenges I PROMISE you.. we have more in common than what drives us apart!  We are ALL insecure, scared and in need of internal adjustments! However, we certainly can embrace our imperfections with humour and compassion, while lovingly asking more from ourselves!!

    Personal growth is imperative to OUR own success! Living our lives in the “light” (transparent exposure)  can be scary when we can see everything that we like and don’t like about ourselves and others. However, success isn’t about getting it all together and being perfect- it’s about embracing our true self (the good, the bad and the ugly) and finding comfort in that balance of being human. WHEW!  The pressure is off ! If I have a safe place to land (hint: I AM that safe place to land) when I make mistakes then that is how we learn to love others, while learning to love ourselves!

    Candace reached out to me and invited me to participate in her Divas that Care Podcast! So for those that want to hear the two Candace’s chat (well mostly me cause I am a talker… necessary for filling in dead air space in radio lol)… Check it out here! CANDACENEWTONCHAPUT-THE MISSING PIECE

    Diva’s that Care is creating a platform  of amazing women, with amazing stories, resources and expertise to share!  Not only do they have a podcast, but so much more! You can purchase their book on Amazon!

    Click here!

    Thank you Candace for the opportunity to share some of my journey! To Learn more about Candace Gish and what she offers go to: DIVASTHATCARE.COM

    “Fear nothing but to betray yourself, for if you lose your Best Friend (you) who will watch over you?” Candace Newton Chaput- Unlocking Secrets for Women Resources Inc. (Click here to learn more about coaching and resources)

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    SEMIAHMOO RESORT- SELF CARE – COUPLE CARE- FAMILY CARE – The BEST Resort- in the North West- Bar None!

    Our “Home away from Home”….

    I have traveled many places; stayed in 6 star hotels while filming our TV shows, and have experienced the best of the best hospitality from San Diego to Whistler BC, to New York and South Africa.

    However, close to home I have found my treasure!

    I promise you there is nothing more relaxing that this incredible, “one of a kind jewel” here in the Pacific Northwest near the Canadian and US borders.

    Set on an carefully preserved piece of peninsula that serves as a bird sanctuary and protected space for the natural habitats of North West creatures, this is a sanctuary that must be experienced to be believed.

    Viewing the stunning seaviews and wildlife

    Views of White Rock, Canada, Mount Baker, Washington, coupled with playful seals and majestic eagles; for over 25 years myself, my children, my spouse, clients, casual and close friends have been introduced by yours truly, to this stunning property.




    Greeted by a newly updated true west coast style decor including,  wooden floors and beams, wood burning fireplaces (in the rooms and throughout the property and restaurants), games rooms, ocean view rooms, comfy beds for you and your pets….. second to none,  you will experience this amazing retreat.  

    From the relaxing indoor and outdoor pools, hot tub, indoor outdoor  tennis and basketball courts, indoor and outdoor recreational facilities, heavenly spa, including seasonal family activities – like Christmas tree lighting and a private movie theater,  all that plus, golfers for you- a golfers paradise course!

    The Ultimate in Self Care at Semiahmoo Resort Ocean View Rooms

    Get your SPA on!

    This is the perfect setting for groups, families and conferences looking for outstanding warmth from staff that care about your needs.


    On site is an amazing relaxing spa with full services for whatever your needs might be. As Canadians with health benefits, we are able to claim our full spa treatments through our blue cross provider and recieve full compensaton as the massage therapists are licenced.

    Packers Kitchen + Bar -are both surrounded by gorgeous ocean views, excellent wait staff (Mary is our favorite- ask for her and tell her we sent you) and fantastic local food!

    Yummy local ingredients cooked to perfection!



    Fit for a King, delicious steak dinner!




    From our “HOME away from HOME” to yours!!

    From summer time outdoor BBQ’s, summer sunset smores around ocean fires, sand boxes for children, pet friendly rooms,  summer water rentals including kayaks and stand up paddle boards, rental bikes,  a convenience store for forgotten needed items, purchasable wine and treats for toasting around the fire, wonderful family winter fun and Christmas celebrations…. I cannot describe the total experience of what we now fondly call our “home away from home”.

    Click here to  Book yourself your Semiahmoo Retreat! You WON’T have a care in the world! Or Call and ask for Micah!! Tell him we sent you!

    Candace and Jim Chaput  <3